You seem to only blame one person, and my entire point somehow went right over your head (and quite a few peoples heads to be fair).

You seem to think I’m defending trump. Or normalizing his behavior. I’m not. I’m saying to try to understand someones behaviors, you have to see things from their perspective. If you can understand other people from their perspective, even if you don’t agree with it, you can begin to understand that persons actions.

Also if you only blame one person in a situation, you’ll always be wrong. There’s no such thing as a situation caused by multiple people that don’t have multiple people at blame.

In your example, yes I would blame the old guy, the parents, and the girl. Just not in equal amounts. No one talks about why the old guy is responsible for his share of the blame, because that much is obvious. If a tsunami hit Miami, and destroyed lots of buildings, you wouldn’t say “You know what did the damage? The water. I blame the water.” No, you’d blame city planners, and government officials for not executing a plan decades prior to build flood barriers, and design the city in a way that deals with hurricanes. We know what the natural disasters are going to do. We can plan around the disasters. But if we fail to do so, we don’t blame the hurricanes and tsunamis. We blame the people who failed to do anything about the tsunamis and hurricanes. Knowing they’re coming. Yes, we all know the disasters are to blame, but that much is so obvious that it doesn’t need to be said.

I’m like visa. I’m everywhere you want to be!

Aw man. Reading the title, I was hoping this was posted in Dad Jokes. I assume the punchline would be amazing.

If this searches all of peertube, then it needs to be the default search on every peertube page.

I feel so bad for peertube. It’s such a great idea, but until it has a full platform wide search options, and regular content producers in areas OTHER than technology, it will never catch on.

My post never said anything close to him being a ladies man. My post is that trump views women as transactional property, and that sex is something he gets for free because he’s rich.

How did you read my post and think I was describing a ladies man??? His views are gross and a result of his experiences.

But your perspective just confuses me how you got 2 + 2 = potato.

There was a thing he said back in the early 2000s, and it was leaked around the 2016 election. He was talking about women, and said something to the effect of “When you’re rich, and famous, they let you grab em by their pussy”.

People at the time were angry that his views were that, but, honestly, that’s the life he’s lived. That’s the life he knows as reality. WE see it as disgusting, because he’s saying that women can be treated as sex objects, and that he’s ok with that. He see’s it as just the world we live in, because women approach him and treat THEMSELVES as sex objects. Those are the women that approach him, so that’s the experience he has with women. Women who only want him for his money.

And now we see it even applies to the courts. Maybe we should still be mad at him for having those views, but also understand why he has those views, and start holding society accountable. Maybe we should be angry at parents who don’t teach their daughters to have more self respect than to find some rich guy to bang for money.

Because at the end of the day, all trump is saying is “I get treated differently, because I’m rich.”

And as angering as that is to hear…he’s not wrong. He’s just an asshole.

A danger of being decentralized is losing all of your momentum.

fediverse growth nervously sweats

If you live near a Starbucks, you can buy a cheap router, name its network “Starbucks Public Wifi”, make it public with no password, but also not connect it to anything.

People will connect, and get really really mad and Starbucks will be just as confused as the customers.

This is what I call the linux bubble. People who use linux and are used to alternate solutions, which may offer better performance than the norm. Then they surround themselves with other like minded people. So much so that they begin to forget that they are using alternatives rather than the norm. Despite what benefits they gain from alternatives, some people can’t grasp that they are, in fact, alternatives.

Twitter has 368 million monthly users. I find it to be a cesspool of hate, racism, and right wing agenda.

So you would think mastodon or bluesky would have equal or better numbers.

Bluesky has 9.7 million monthly users, which includes a huge recent boost because of brazil ceasing twitters ability to operate. I think that alone was 2 million users.

And mastodon has 975,000 monthly users.

So yes, despite it’s flaws, twitter is still the default in microblogging. By a LOT. But I’m sure the feeling around here is “who still uses twitter???”.

Everybody. Same way everybody uses google. Same way everybody uses instagram. And it’s not even close to being close.

Don’t forget your glue on your pizza! Can’t have a pizza without glue…

Is that the one that costs money? You can’t have a true incognito search if that’s the case.

If “TomHanks” is his username on every other service, like twitter, and youtube, and tiktok, and instagram, then he would want to use it when he comes to the fediverse. Now, if only ONE person can have the username TomHanks (and it just so happens to be @Lemmy.World), then he could send a cease and disist letter, and if that doesn’t work, a lawsuit. Madonna did it in the 90s with Madonna.com.

However, if TomHanks@Lemmy.World can exist, and TomHanks@Lemm.ee can exist, and TomHanks@piefed.social can exist and…and…and…then it gets a little impossible for him to really own that username, because it can be duplicated on an infinate amount of instances, some that may not even exist when he shows up to the fediverse.

But if only one instance can have TomHanks, than he could absolutely show courts he’s had a vested interest and usership of that identity and thus that’s HIS username. Even on services he’s never signed up for. Like if he doesn’t have an instagram account at all, but someone else starts using TomHanks on instagram, he can take it to the courts that they are not allowed to do that, because that’s his username.

But the way the fediverse is currently set up right now, that’s not feasible. Because he could enter a court battle with TomHanks@Lemm.ee, and then 5 more instances with his username popup. And eventually it becomes harder and harder to prove that people know his ownership of that username if there’s 500 other people also using the same username. It’s the reason you can’t email celebrities. They can’t control their presence in email, so they don’t use that as their identity.

It’s a thing.

Well the majority of the post was me trying to explain the question. I can’t just say “Has anyone else had the same thoughts I had?” because the first thing that would be asked is “What thoughts are you having?”

So yeah, I had to backtrack and explain my thoughts before I could ask if anyone else is having them. I was trying to learn if there’s other people who feel this way, or if this is among the many many many other things that people say “No, it’s just you”.

You saying that this is a thing other people experience is what I was trying to figure out. You’re taking a tone like it’s obvious, but it’s not obvious to me, so I thought this would be the place to ask things like that.

I mean sure…but essentially you’re using the facts as they stand as justification that it will never work, when my whole point is that these facts as they stand need to change because they will never work unless we change them.

People keep using email, and domains as reasons for why it’s not an issue, but there’s a reason celebrities aren’t known for their email. You can tweet at celebrities, and you can follow celebrities on instagram, and all the other services, but you generally can’t email them.

Now, the reason for this is that celebrity wants to own the exact spelling and exact letter/number combination that they’re known for. I like to try to make things relatable to the person that I’m talking to, but let’s face it, abff08f4813c is a really really bad username for branding purposes. But, be that as it may, IF you were a celebrity, and everybody knew abff08f4813c on instagram, and everybody knew abff08f4813c on twitter, then if you were to come to the fediverse, you wouldn’t want a second abff08f4813c to exist. You would want to own “abff08f4813c” on every platform, even if you’re not on that platform. Even if you don’t use tiktok, you would want to make sure nobody else has the name abff08f4813c on tiktok.

The problem is, the fediverse is so fractured that’s not really logistically possible. Because if you try to sue one person on one other instance that has abff08f4813c, now suddenly 300 more abff08f4813c on 300 different instances all pop up.

What I’m suggesting is, no matter which instance you’re on, if you search abff08f4813c, the search should find that username, and direct you to the profile that corrilates with you. And even though that profile is only on one instance, it would make it so if I tried to make abff08f4813c, on another instance, I would be told that username is already taken.

From there, you could absolutely create an old twitter style verification system. And NOW celebrities will be more willing to use the fediverse. But until that changes, I don’t see any celebrity who values their own brand on an international scale, be willing to publically announce they are on the fediverse, and their fans can migrate to the fediverse to follow them.

I’m his first/only, her 3rd. My sisters are roughly 10 years older than me.

Then no. If they migrate, thats a new account technically.

Are you trying to ban individual users for individual reasons? Or are you trying to ban all mastodon users?

You’re missing the point. You can have Tom.Hanks@twitter.com but you can’t have Tom_Hanks@othertwitter.com

So when you come to the fediverse, instead of searching for Tom_Hanks@tomhanks.com, you just search for Tom_Hanks, and the fediverse will know that defaults to the account Tom_Hanks. Which is the same account on Lemmy, the same account on Peertube, the same account on pixelfed.

Because it’s all Tom_Hanks.

Oh. That’s good. I’m a fan of his contributions to Lemmy for sure.

Funny thing of note, when he first started posting, I thought he was a girl. Not sure why. But for like 2 days I assumed Don was a woman.