I’m pretty sure im bi and have identified as bi but am starting to question if im actually bi. Not really sure how I can prove that I’m actually bi to myself

  • Netsettler2k@lemmy.one
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    1 year ago

    I identified as bi in high school. By college I was engaged to another woman, and decided to call myself a lesbian, because my assumption was that I would spend the rest of my life in a lesbian relationship. Once we broke up, I just comfortably dropped any specific label. I guess I’m bi by definition. My current live-in boyfriend is also bi. Neither of us really care to define ourselves anymore. We’re with each other as a straight couple, so to the world we’re straight. Our friends and family already know our dating history before we got together, and are supportive no matter how we identify.

    I guess as I’ve gotten older, I’ve cared less about labels. Date who you want, love who you love, and be kind to yourself. If your label is important to you, you have a right to vocalize it and embrace it. But don’t feel like you have to paint yourself into a corner. To quote the old MySpace adage: labels are for soup cans <3

  • alex [they/them]@beehaw.org
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    1 year ago

    The bi-cycle is a meme for a reason: it’s true for many of us! There’s really no way to prove it, “bi” is the default state of “unless proven otherwise I can like people of any gender” and anything other than that state should be the thing that’s proven, imo :)

  • Gormadt@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    1 year ago

    I’m bi

    So very much yes

    Sees hot dude

    “Maybe I’m gay and just refusing to accept it?”

    Sees hot chick

    “Maybe I’m straight and not wanting to accept it?”

    Haven’t seen anyone attractive in awhile

    Brain

    “Hear me out…”

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    1 year ago

    It’s not as binary like a light switch, this or that, A or B. It’s all fluid. For example, I thought I was gay at first, for some years, but didn’t dare to act or think more in that direction. Then I started to come out to myself, explore a bit and realized I might be bi. I munched on that thought and feelings a bit and later found out that I was gay. More or less, at least.

    EDIT: Omg sorry for posting 3 times the same comment, my app crashed.

    • pohart@lemmyrs.org
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      1 year ago

      more or less, at least.

      I think this is the crux of it for a lot of folks. We pick the labels that feel closest most if the time. Just don’t let your labels define you.