• candyman337@sh.itjust.works
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    When I was younger I really didn’t get societal norms super well, a girl asked me to rate her and I thought she was not ugly, not gorgeous, I gave her a 7 out of 10. She was offended lol. Didn’t even realize she was flirting with me until years later lmao

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            you call a girl a 10 if they ask. that’s just how you play that situation there’s no reason to think about it.

            im not sure how old u r but when u start talking to girls (or dudes? idk if this works gayly) let them fish for compliments. its not a bad thing to play the game they want to play sometimes.

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                adults don’t do anything specifically everyone is different and there’s no reason to generalize some arbitrary normality that your parents taught you in a vacuum

                most sane people dont fish for compliments that blatantly sometimes you just gotta be nice. unless you disagree then you just sound boring to be around.

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      You fell for one of the oldest tricks in the book.

      In the future, when a girl asks you to rate her, the answer is always 10.

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        No I just tell people I don’t rate people that way. Because for one my attraction is not based on appearance mostly, and also no one is a 10 to me because no one is perfect, so they’ll never be happy with the answer. So I outright refuse with that reasoning. Like I’m not gonna rate the girl over there that’s clearly pretty who may be more physically attractive just so I can rate you lower physically despite caring for you more and finding you way more attractive overall.

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          You sound like the dude in the image lol. I don’t mean that in a bad way, just a funny observation. I get it too, because whenever my friends and I see a movie we have these sort of debates. I rate 1 to 5 and everyone else does 1 to 10. I say I can’t do 1 to 10 because it is too granular and it’s a subjective thing anyways. It’s funny how something so simple as “rate X on a scale of whatever” can turn into such a massive dilemma.

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            I mean with friends sure ok, but it’s a loaded question when it’s from a potential SO or already SO, and I’m not playing that game

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              Yeah of course, but I’d only be giving out 2, 4, 6, 8, and 10. Even apart from that they all use numbers different. I try to do it where 4 stars mean I really liked it an 5 stars means I LOVED it. But a lot of them refuse to give 10 because they don’t want to say anything is “perfect.” I have given a few 6 star rating just as a way to communicate it’s one of my all time favorites (Spider verse 2019, Everything Everywhere All at Once, Puss & Boots the last wish are some examples) which is sort of similar to them giving a 10 but some of them seriously just never give 10s. I use 6 stars as more of a “5 star but let me clear, I think this shit is one of the best”.

              Even to me who is saying “I give this 3 out of 5” it somehow feels extremely different than saying “I give this 6 out of 10” so I don’t really like to do it. I view star ratings more as buckets to put movies in more than a rating. Like there are five buckets and I put which it goes in. Idk. It makes sense in my head.

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      I didn’t even realize until you mentioned it. I’m what they call a lost cause lol.

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    Culture plays into it too. For example here in Finland, school grades are from 4 (failed) to 10, and that ends up skewing how you see any scale from 1 to 10.

    As a bit of trivia, originally there were grades lower than 4, but at some point it was decided it wasn’t necessary to determine just how badly you failed. Knowing that you did should be enough. So all the failing grades were bundled up into one, which ended up being the previously highest failing grade.

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      US schools definitely mess with your head the higher of an achiever you are.

      In remedial classes, in most places, 60 is passing.
      In normal classes, in most places, 70 is passing.
      In advanced classes, you may be kicked out for scoring under 80.

      The intuitive concept of “barely good enough” keeps getting higher as you perform better, plus of course each of these types of classes are progressively more difficult by their nature. It really fucks with people who are excellent in some subjects but average in others.

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        Is that percentage of points or just an arbitrary grade scale?

        Because that’s quite funny compared to the (non-US) university I attend where you pass the difficult classes with “just” 33% of points.

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          Percentage of points. So if you get half of the questions wrong on a test, you fail. In some cases, teachers will grade “on a curve”, meaning they normalize the class scores. My organic chem teacher in college liked to make extremely difficult tests, so you’d get 40% or something awful like that and it would turn out that nobody in the class scored over 50% so you actually got an A.

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        In all my normal classes, 60 was the cutoff for passing. In my advanced classes it was 80. Never saw a 70 cutoff though.

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    If talking with a woman and she asks you to rate her:


    “Hmm, let’s see 9.5… nope, wait, hold on,…”

    Fix a hair on her head or move your head around like you’re looking at the Mona Lisa

    “Nope, 10 out of ten. Absolute perfection.”

    Then smile, and look her in the eyes (or forehead if you’re shy)


    The touch will help increase intimacy level, but if you lean in and she leans back, then you don’t have permission to touch her then do the head bobs like you’re examining a really nice piece of art.

    Bonus points: Make sure you look her up and down with your eyes as she’s unconsciously seeing that you’re looking at her whole picture.

    At least that my default on how I handle questions like that.

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      Please don’t “look her up and down”. Nobody I know would want to be checked out by an acquaintance or first date like that, and she is most certainly not “unconsciously” seeing you check her out. She’s painfully aware of it.

      If it’s someone you’re actually dating already for a few months, then different story. But if it’s a stranger you’re on your first date with, then please don’t do this.

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    The mean is drawn from the average measurement of length (cm/inches). The middle of the scale (5-6/10) should represent high and low variations in the mean.